THE F WORD

Hi Everyone! Today I felt compelled to talk a bit about failure because lets face it, sometimes things just don't go the way we hope for.

I used to be part of a fail club until no so long ago. Where we got together every month or so to talk about our failure experiences. Being part of this group was quite a transformative experience for me. And one of the biggest takeaways from this was that failure is emotional. Which is why most of the time the experiences feel shitier than they actually are. But if we can acknowledge that failure is emotional, and acknowledge the emotion itself, we immediately start to make space to observe it from a more objective perspective. Was it actually that shitty or did it FEEL really shitty? And not always but majority of the time it's the latter. Seeing it this way always helps expose the "real failure" ie. "Actually If I just fix that line, and keep practicing, it will be better" vs "I'l never be good at anything!!"

Then there's also the negativity bias. We all have it. That no matter what, we naturally have a tendency to dwell on the negative aspect more than the positive. But like anything, learning to deal with failure is like training a muscle. It's acknowledging the emotion in every failure experience and separating the feeling of being a failure, to what the failure actually was. That's where it shifts from being a negative experience to a learning opportunity and create clarity for improvement.

And clarity for improvement needs to come from being aware of your own progress and where you are in your own process instead of comparing those to someonelses. When we can do that, we become less attached to the outcome, find joy in the little wins and trust our own pace and process as a result.

Hope you find this useful, as no matter where we are in life, we cant really avoid failure. We can only learn how to get better at processing them. Because while failure might be very emotional, if we aren't failing, we aren't growing.

So be kind to yourself, trust your own pace and process, learn from it and keep on doing what you love.

With lots of love and a massive splash of joy

Akriti
Your creative curiosity advocate

Ps. If you feel like learning about and creating your own lil failure share and care group. Here is a link to the fail club I was part of. With some great reads and insights from the other members.

http://www.failclub.co